Mom hates the hobby

[MAXX-n around]

Ok mom hates the hobby. She thinks im a nerd because I spend my money on r c stuff. She always saying stuff like "youspend to much time with that thing. Now my famly is prety normal. But not me. My brother skateboard and she takes him to more skate parks than she takes me to the shop. I have only been to are track twice. once a year. Every time I ask something comes up like I have to run in the morning. My mom run like a car she can run 30 miles. She run in the earliy morning most of the time by the track. Like in the parking lot she parks her car and meets her friends to run. I said while you run how come i cant go to the track. She like you have to pay to use the track. The track is a non-profit ogonistion. So i can use the track for free but to race it will cost. Then she said it just onther trip to the lhs. But my bro can go get a new board every month. What do you think. Does she hate the hobby or not!!

[Animeboy123]

well my parents think this hobby is a great thing for me so they take me to the LHS or the track when i ask most of the time when they are free from work and stuff.

It kinda sounds like your mom isnt really being fair if she takes your bro to the skatepark, when she wont take you to the HS or the track. How old is your Bro? if he is the same age as you or older i would say it isnt to fair but if he is younger i would think it is kinda fair with your bro not being able to get around so easily being young and stuff.

[End Overend]

The only way to know for sure is to ask her.

As for how to get around it you can explain how the hobby is benificial to you and your family.

First, there are far worse things you could be doing with your time than driving RC cars.

Second, learing about RC cars teaches you many things. You learn about electronics, engeinering, math, science, structural design, etc.

Third, racing teaches you many things. It teaches you how to deal with competition, how to win and lose, persistance, paitience, problem solving skills, etc.

The part you will probably have to get past is that most people view this hobby as playing with toys. Parents have a hard time with it because they think you should be doing what everybody else is doing instead of plaing with toys. Being different isn't bad, it's just, different.

If you can show a correlation between your RC cars and increased grades, the apparent dislike of your hobby may quickly vanish.

Anyway, if you really enjoy it, stick with it. If worse comes to worse you may have to get a job to pay for you hobby, but again that will only make you a better person in the end.

[egdinger]

You could always say "FINE, I'll give up the toy cars, will you take me to get some crack insted?" see how she responds to that. I wouldn't do that if your parents are the kind to get real riled up over that though, or if you have/had a problem with drugs.

[TheBlackKat]

Originally posted by Animeboy123
if he is younger i would think it is kinda fair

No its not, that actually makes it more un-fair. Younger people need more time by themselves so they can mature and realize the importance of things in life and not be pampered

You should sock your brother in the face, break his stupid skateboard and tell your mother to get on her knees cause what she is doing is wrong, unfair and creul.

[Strike 4]

Originally posted by TheBlackKat
No its not, that actually makes it more un-fair. Younger people need more time by themselves so they can mature and realize the importance of things in life and not be pampered

You should sock your brother in the face, break his stupid skateboard and tell your mother to get on her knees cause what she is doing is wrong, unfair and creul.

I am sorry to say this but that is a in mature way to go about it. Instead show a increase in grade and if she goes on about what other kids do ask her, "if that's true should I smoke pot because other kids do it?" But socking your brother and breaking his board would get you no were and make you look more childish; step up to your problems and face them like someone who has learned something and she will understand. I can agree on the younger brother statment usually mothers suck up to the younger child because they feel like they are more restrained and the older one gets to leave more early. Creul is such an exhageration if you ask me you were the one that got spoiled, EVERY thing you own is your mothers and until you are 18 it is tough luck that you don't like the fact she wont bring you to the track; some kids would be happy with a meal every day! I would have never done anything like socking my brother or yelling at my mom or dad and I paid for all of my RC stuff and took the bus or subway to the track, but that is just my opinion take it for what it's worth!

[Katatonia]

Originally posted by End Overend
The only way to know for sure is to ask her.

As for how to get around it you can explain how the hobby is benificial to you and your family.

First, there are far worse things you could be doing with your time than driving RC cars.

Second, learing about RC cars teaches you many things. You learn about electronics, engeinering, math, science, structural design, etc.

Third, racing teaches you many things. It teaches you how to deal with competition, how to win and lose, persistance, paitience, problem solving skills, etc.

The part you will probably have to get past is that most people view this hobby as playing with toys. Parents have a hard time with it because they think you should be doing what everybody else is doing instead of plaing with toys. Being different isn't bad, it's just, different.

If you can show a correlation between your RC cars and increased grades, the apparent dislike of your hobby may quickly vanish.

Anyway, if you really enjoy it, stick with it. If worse comes to worse you may have to get a job to pay for you hobby, but again that will only make you a better person in the end.

Bullsh*t, that does not work on parents. Increased grades due to RC? Give me a break. Wait until you're 18 or move out of the house, then do what you want. Until then deal with it.

[MAXX-n around]

I dont thick its "creul" jst un-fair that he goes everywere and my gt dosent meet dirt often enough because i live in a neighbor hood.

To the Q & As
My bro is younger and a pain in the ass
he threw my truck because it was in the way of his skateboarding.

I not saying i hate my mom but some times her ruling sucks. I love my mom and dad but lets try to focus on me for once and not the sixth grade skater baby.

[Katatonia]

Originally posted by MAXX-n around
I dont thick its "creul" jst un-fair that he goes everywere and my gt dosent meet dirt often enough because i live in a neighbor hood.

To the Q & As
My bro is younger and a pain in the ass
he threw my truck because it was in the way of his skateboarding.

I not saying i hate my mom but some times her ruling sucks. I love my mom and dad but lets try to focus on me for once and not the sixth grade skater baby.

How old are you?

[trw]

man that sucks....im kinda in that situation to but its not in my family...its with my classmates or some of them.

[TheBlackKat]

Originally posted by Strike 4
if you ask me you were the one that got spoiled....EVERY thing you own is your mothers and until you are 18.....I paid for all of my RC stuff and took the bus or subway to the track,

1) Me, spoiled...what an oxymoron. More like neglected and dispised. Just because I go out on a limb and will break someone's nose because they get more than I do for no good reason it doesn't mean I'm spoiled. It means I'm sick of injustice and will go to a greater length to get attention on the matter than you will

2) It is not my mother's stuff. If she tried to get rid of it I'd feel that I'd have the right to do bodily harm to her because I worked for it, she didn't, and if it wern't for my dad than I'd either be dead or in a orphanage. My mom gave birth to me....simple as that, nothing more.

3) So have I. I take the transit over 60 miles atleast twice a month to get to the closest carpet track and pay for all expensense, forutnetly I get to ride my bike 10 miles to race at my LHS's parking lot tomorrow.

[Strike 4]

LMAO it's not worth my time to reply to that post...


MAXX-N around, How far is the closest HS/Track? Why not just bring the car to the skate park? I love bringing my Gt's to the skate park :).

[HKS_fury]

Hey how old are you and dude chill ok just tell your mom to take you to the lhs and she could go shopping or something. Dude it's probably you spend too much money on cars...Lol by the way what do you have right now?

[End Overend]

Bullsh*t, that does not work on parents. Increased grades due to RC? Give me a break. Wait until you're 18 or move out of the house, then do what you want. Until then deal with it.

That's a great attitude to have. For me an attitude such as this would lead to MAXX-n around's problem, not help it.

I know if it were a child of mine I would want my child to do the things that would help him/her prosper in school. If it were RC, I'd be all over it.

Wait until your 18 or move out of the house, then do what you want

If he did this, there is a very good chance he would never get to do anything with the hobby again, as he would have no money to spend on the hobby. One interesting statistic that I ran accross recently: a college graduate on average will make 1 million dollars more in their life time than an individual with just a high school diploma. That's a whole lot of RC vehicles.

Personally I work in social services (I run a mentoring program for children in foster care) and it's an attidude such as this, or others giving such advice that lead to a lot of problems with families.

I have yet to meet an 18 year old that was truely ready to live life on their own. However every 18 year that that I've met in this situation will tell you that they are ready, but in reality they are not even close.

I'm off of that soap box.

MAXX-n around,

The best way to address the problem is to bring it up with your parents. If you don't communicate with them all you can do is make assumptions, as they may be doing with you. Make sure they know you enjoy it and help them understand how it can help you as much as it is fun. Try and get your parents involved in it as well, no better way for a parent to spend time with their kids then by getting involved in their activities.

[MAXX-n around]

I am 14 and the nerst track i 40 miles away and I just need help to get me to the track more often

[p.n.e]

yea outdoor nitro tracks arent allowed in city limits. its really tough for me to get to the outskirts of town where no bus goes, in the industrial parts when i cant drive.

[TRF Drive Hard]

Just tell your mom to burn off her calories...:rolleyes: clearly she doesnt understand what your likes and dislikes are...

[spider04]

Parents dont understand sometimes because thats not what they did when they grew up!!!!Just be patient and keep your cool and she will come around. My wife is the same way doesnt like me spending money on "toy cars" but thats life. All people no matter what age have to have a hobby its just some people dont understand RC because they dont know about. My best advice is just keep trying to talk her into letting you go but never loose your cool because that starts you back at the begining!

[XXXSRaycer]

Well,

Because I get home about 30 minutes before my mom gets home I usually have some work time but because my dad travels 2 weeks out 1 week in kinda thig(he's always home on the weekends) I usually dont get to the hobby shop but about every 3 weeks, becuase ,yes, my mom doesn't particulalry care for the hobby but my dad will support me all the way. He knows that I want to major in Technical Engineering so a hobby like this would make for a great start when coming up with ideas and stuff to engineer. I hopefully will be able to get my engine this weekend/today because my dad's home and he says "we have to do a couple of arrends." that usually means yes we're going to be swinging by the hobbyshop for you to get what you want but still theres that posobility(sp) that...............

-Ryan

[losiguy1090]

my mom doesnt like this hobby either. but my dad likes it and he supports me. he even pits for me at races. my mom thinks its dumb that i spend all my money on my cars but she spends all my dads money on sewing stuff;)

since i still can't drive i can't go where i want to go. i dont make it to the track nearly as often as i would like in the winter but since i can't drive there isnt much i can do about it. but in the summer i make it to the track every other weekend or every weekend.

i used to skateboard and that was an exspensive hobby[thats why i dropped it cuz im into rc and golf]. i was going through a board every couple weeks and it was really expsensive to stay in that hobby. especially when a new deck costs 40 bucks :eek:

[KTRTS]

My mum and dad like me doing R/C, they want me doing something with my time. My mum/ dad will take me to the track, but then again it's only like 10 minutes away.

[MAXX-n around]

Are track is in the city limits and my dad likes its so much that he pays for the broken stuff that he broke while he was driving An losiguy rc and golf all the way!:D

[shadowghost1]

Sounds like you need to talk to your mother and tell her how you feel. Doe your mom want you to go outside and do something else that involves activity, if so I could see her point. Maybe thats why she see's your brother in a different light. This hasnt been mentioned but how would she respond if you went outside and played basketball or football all day, maybe chased some girls and then come home and ran your RC'S.
I am asking you all of this because your brother skateboards and your mother runs, what do you do? Sit on the couch and play video games? Sit down stairs and play with your RC? It sounds like your mom wants you to get outsde a bit and do something that involves sweat.

Just my 2 cents.

[ralliart]

my parents doon't hate, but they also don't like it, but they said that they like the hobby is because it keeps me away from the T.V all day, if i get a new kit

[potatoe_bird]

My parents don't really care, It's my money. My older bro used to be in the hobby so that helps. Although, my step father wasn't too happy about the hyper 7 pbs. I paid for it so he can't say anything. My track is pretty far too. :(

[Katatonia]

Originally posted by End Overend
That's a great attitude to have. For me an attitude such as this would lead to MAXX-n around's problem, not help it.

I know if it were a child of mine I would want my child to do the things that would help him/her prosper in school. If it were RC, I'd be all over it.



If he did this, there is a very good chance he would never get to do anything with the hobby again, as he would have no money to spend on the hobby. One interesting statistic that I ran accross recently: a college graduate on average will make 1 million dollars more in their life time than an individual with just a high school diploma. That's a whole lot of RC vehicles.

Personally I work in social services (I run a mentoring program for children in foster care) and it's an attidude such as this, or others giving such advice that lead to a lot of problems with families.

I have yet to meet an 18 year old that was truely ready to live life on their own. However every 18 year that that I've met in this situation will tell you that they are ready, but in reality they are not even close.

I'm off of that soap box.

MAXX-n around,

The best way to address the problem is to bring it up with your parents. If you don't communicate with them all you can do is make assumptions, as they may be doing with you. Make sure they know you enjoy it and help them understand how it can help you as much as it is fun. Try and get your parents involved in it as well, no better way for a parent to spend time with their kids then by getting involved in their activities.

A college degree in this economy is not much of a guarantee anymore. It's the bare minimum and with manufacturing going to china and the outsourcing trend a college degree might be better off put aside and learning a trade might be best. I went through all this crap with my parents and thouh 18 is still young, he can still get a job to pay for his interests. Many parents cant spend a lot of time with their kids due to being either poor parents or having to work all the time. My parents were boomers (baby boomers) so poor parenting and lack of interest in thier kids really affected me and my outlook. The faster he's self sufficient the better.

[MAXX-n around]

I do other stuf than rc. BMX MX etc. I just think that if he can go to a thousand skate parks when i have only been to the track twice. I dont play or chase girls vary often because of work!

[SegaBowMan]

This may be a little random but there is something that always bothers me when I see it. When people suggest to negotiate with their parents and tell them how it gets you outside, be with other people learn electronics and stuff, that fine. But when people say "it's better than spending money on drugs", that is a very bad point. No matter what hobby you have or don't have, you are not supposed to be doing drugs anyway.

That's really all I had to say. :)

[cardboard]

Originally posted by TheBlackKat
1) Me, spoiled...what an oxymoron. More like neglected and dispised. Just because I go out on a limb and will break someone's nose because they get more than I do for no good reason it doesn't mean I'm spoiled. It means I'm sick of injustice and will go to a greater length to get attention on the matter than you will

2) It is not my mother's stuff. If she tried to get rid of it I'd feel that I'd have the right to do bodily harm to her because I worked for it, she didn't, and if it wern't for my dad than I'd either be dead or in a orphanage. My mom gave birth to me....simple as that, nothing more.

3) So have I. I take the transit over 60 miles atleast twice a month to get to the closest carpet track and pay for all expensense, forutnetly I get to ride my bike 10 miles to race at my LHS's parking lot tomorrow.
stop with the damn self-pity and loathing. If it's such a strain on you then just quit.

[TheBlackKat]

Originally posted by cardboard
stop with the damn self-pity and loathing. If it's such a strain on you then just quit.

If I quit everything that put a strain on me in life I'd still be in 6th grade (I'm in 9th now) weigh near 300 pounds and be a lot lazier.

Come to think of it if I WANTED to be & if I got like that I'd get along with my mom a whole lot better.

Maybe shes just jelous because I have the drive to do somthing in my life and she didn't

My dad is my job and part-sponsor. I do ALL the housework for him while hes at work and he pays me/helps out on the cost of R/C stuff we would both use

[losiguy1090]

cardboard, if he quits thatll just make his problems worse. its bad enough he cant go to the track, but if he cant use his rcs cuz he quit, thats even worse.

a lot of times when i sit on the computer for hours my mom actually yells at me and tells me to go mess around with my cars. :D lol

[cardboard]

i'm just telling him to stop complaining or quit completely.

[MAXX-n around]

Ok i had to beg MOM to TAKE ME TO THE TRACK ON SUNDAY:D . But we'll see what comes up cuz its my bros b-day:o :(

[nitrofun]

You just need to calmly explain your position to your parents, if you can make them understand hy you feel our being treated unfairly, and why this is a healthy hobby, then you stand a chance at convincing her that it is worthwhile and hopefully she will even out the playing field wwith you and your bro, good luck.

[Budman_222]

How about if you got your little brother hooked on rc's and racing? You could tag along when your mom takes him to the track. Might be more than one way to skin this cat. No I don't want to skin a cat. It's just an expression. :D


Bud

[shadowghost1]

This is what the problem is, its to grow up and look at whats important. Its your brothers b day and you want to go to the track, if I where your parent I would tell you no. Sounds like to me your not telling us the whole story and by the sound of your previous posts your very selfish. Maybe you need to take a step back and look at what your doing and determine if the problem is your mom not liking RC or the fact your being a little baby and your mom is dealing with you the best she knows how.

[losiguy1090]

Originally posted by cardboard
i'm just telling him to stop complaining or quit completely.

if its bothering you so much then stop reading this thread. i would be upset if i got to go to the track as little as he does.;)

[MAXX-n around]

Well I cant go now because i got some radio interference and sent my off my jump and hit the brick part of are house. Budman I have tried to get him on the r c train but hes mister joe cool at school but if hes worryed about being cool fine dont care! Ghost the party wasint untill 8:00 , my plan was to get to the track at 10:00 and leave by 1:00. PLus he went flying this morning with dad so I know they wont get back till 2:00.

Thanx guys

[Katatonia]

Originally posted by MAXX-n around
Well I cant go now because i got some radio interference and sent my off my jump and hit the brick part of are house. Budman I have tried to get him on the r c train but hes mister joe cool at school but if hes worryed about being cool fine dont care! Ghost the party wasint untill 8:00 , my plan was to get to the track at 10:00 and leave by 1:00. PLus he went flying this morning with dad so I know they wont get back till 2:00.

Thanx guys

Here's the deal. You are a selfish little kid and the only thing you are guaranteed is a roof over your head, food and school. The rest is luxury and if your parents don't have time for your hobby then i guess you either deal with it or give it up.

[TheBlackKat]

Originally posted by MAXX-n around
Well I cant go now because i got some radio interference and sent my off my jump and hit the brick part of are house. Budman I have tried to get him on the r c train but hes mister joe cool at school but if hes worryed about being cool fine dont care! Ghost the party wasint untill 8:00 , my plan was to get to the track at 10:00 and leave by 1:00. PLus he went flying this morning with dad so I know they wont get back till 2:00.

Thanx guys

Heh, Hes "too cool" for R/C cars? I can see an electric sedan being called uncool and preppy (yet nobody disses my TC3 around here) but I only see a big, haul-ass nitro truck as making him more popular. Let him have the body the way he wants it and add whatever rims/wheels he wants to make it look badass & I could only see it making him look "cooler"

[Animeboy123]

Originally posted by Katatonia
Here's the deal. You are a selfish little kid and the only thing you are guaranteed is a roof over your head, food and school. The rest is luxury and if your parents don't have time for your hobby then i guess you either deal with it or give it up.


yes i agree that most of it is a luxury but still, he doesnt have a car and it would be a long walk to the track carrying all of the gear he would need to be able run. Also when his brother is getting all these rides to the skate park its kinda unfair to Maxx.

Maxx,

Your bro sounds like a imature brat to me thinking that a hobby will make him "uncool". You should take your truck to the skatepark and see how many skaters think that the truck is cool going off those ramps and stuff, i bet most of them will love to see the truck and ask questions about it.

[losiguy1090]

katatonia, im assuming your not a kid? im sure you complained to your parents about stuff when you were a kid. i know i do sometimes and so does every other kid.

[Katatonia]

Originally posted by losiguy1090
katatonia, im assuming your not a kid? im sure you complained to your parents about stuff when you were a kid. i know i do sometimes and so does every other kid.

I'm 27 and not a kid anymore. When I didn't get what I wanted I didn't complain, i went behind their backs. I earned my own money though and either bummed rides or rode my damn bike or walked for miles to get where i wanted to go.

Just enjoy it while you can getting everything for free. I'm on my own, married and usually flat broke so i can't enjoy everything i want. Reality sucks, you either deal with it or eat a bullet.

[Kartracerx55]

Im not trying to be mean or anything, but MAXX could try to spell your words a bit better, I am having a hard time reading your posts thanks.;)

[losiguy1090]

katatonia, i hear what your saying but im sure at one time or another you complained when you didnt get something you wanted.

and i dont get all my stuff for free. i have to pay for all my rc stuff. and 90% of the time i dont have enough money for stuff i want. it takes me like 3 months to save up 100 bucks. since im saving for an engine for my xxxnt i cant afford to buy anything else if i want to have my new engine by racing season.

[rocknbil]

Originally posted by Katatonia
.... the only thing you are guaranteed is a roof over your head, food and school. The rest is luxury and if your parents don't have time for your hobby then i guess you either deal with it or give it up.

^^^ SHAZAAAAM!!

Maxx you do not want to hear it but these are actually words of wisdom. Truthfully, you're not even GUARANTEED these things, you're fortunate to have them. When you grow up, guess what? IT GETS WORSE! :D Better learn this concept now while you can.

But to solve your problem:
I am 14 and the nerst track i 40 miles away

consider this one of your first "life challenges."
You want.
You need.
What can YOU do (not your mom) to get what you want?

Are you in a rural or urban area? You can take a bus, taxi, or if you call this track 40 miles away maybe you can hook it up with one of the other drivers, pay them a little $$ to swing out of their way to give you a lift.

Don't whine about the money it costs to get there, or how you don't have it. Everything costs. Sorry.

Just think, if take all the effort you've expended figuring out how to use your mom to meet your ends, or complaining about how unfair it is, and put that into figuring it out on your own, you may already have it solved. And it would be YOUR solution, one you figured out without anyone's help, and that's a big step forward.

Good luck. :D

[GCMustang]

Some of these posts are harsh, but necessary. It's harsh to say that you shouldn't expect anything, not even a roof over your head and food on the table, especially for a kid. But it is a valuable lesson I learned early on. You're not gauranteed anything. You need to earn it.

My parents resisted my dedication to the hobby mostly because of the expense. This hobby is a heck of a lot more expensive than most. But when I got a job and earned money to buy parts/cars, and rode my bike 20 miles just to practice at the track, they were impressed with my dedication and were far more supportive.

The way to get what you want? Don't ask for it. Show your dedication and desire and they, as parents, will admire that.

[Katatonia]

Originally posted by losiguy1090
katatonia, i hear what your saying but im sure at one time or another you complained when you didnt get something you wanted.

and i dont get all my stuff for free. i have to pay for all my rc stuff. and 90% of the time i dont have enough money for stuff i want. it takes me like 3 months to save up 100 bucks. since im saving for an engine for my xxxnt i cant afford to buy anything else if i want to have my new engine by racing season.

wait now you're losiguy? are you the same person here? Anyway, sure i complained but my parents didn't give a sh*t so I dealt with it my own way. You can either whine like a girl or take matters in your own hand. If this hobby is too much of a problem for you to deal with in your current situation, find a new hobby. RC will always be around.

[KTRTS]

Originally posted by Katatonia
wait now you're losiguy? are you the same person here? Anyway, sure i complained but my parents didn't give a sh*t so I dealt with it my own way. You can either whine like a girl or take matters in your own hand. If this hobby is too much of a problem for you to deal with in your current situation, find a new hobby. RC will always be around.

Not with that attitude it won't. Not much good in telling people to quit. He could always give it a little break if he wants...

[ayk_driver]

just do what i do... dont ask mom... ask dad!!!! my dad luvs r/c... helps he used to race and has planes and we both have boats lol

[ralliart]

at least you got it easy, at least one of your family members like rc cars, my sisters keep nagging me on how much i spend and work on my far. my dad is like the only one who supports me

[ayk_driver]

Originally posted by ralliart
at least you got it easy, at least one of your family members like rc cars, my sisters keep nagging me on how much i spend and work on my far. my dad is like the only one who supports me

yeah my dads kewl.. he didnt like that i spent 600 on my maxx but once he saw it run he was kewl... my mom on the other hand didnt like it at all....

[losiguy1090]

raliart, my dad is the only one in my family who supports me.

[ralliart]

same, thats probably because me and my dad is the only guys in our family

[raderrustler]

My Turn,
I noticed you said earlier your brother went flying with your dad. Is this R/c flying or Actual Pilot flying? I earned all my money and paid for all my stuff when I was growing up..the only stipulation was for every dollar I spent on rc I had to put a dollar in savings.
Call your track and ask if there are any people willing to pick you up from the closest public transportation drop-off spot. Do you have any other interests other than rc? I sense a lot of emotion good and bad from some of the people on this thread. I support my kids in any endeavor they have from sports to boy/girl scouts/our horses/goats/4-h/to rc. Try something different...Write a long letter to your parents explaining your position stating why you want to do the things you do, different options for times you want to race, or things you will do extra to earn a trip to the track once a month while mom shops or runs. Kep a level tone also when talking to your parents. I am very strict with my kids and how they talk to others...respect is a two-way street. You have to earn it in order to have it and if you give others respect you will start to earn it. go help your brother with his new deck at the skatepark, clean up around the house....wash the car..anything will help if it is directed torward a goal and not done in exchange.
Darn long post this time...oops.
Randy